The world is not such a bad place after all

 

 

The world is not such a bad place after all

 

  1. The world is not such a bad place after all. People are more reliable and trustworthy than had been previously experienced.
  2. I have to be less demanding of people.
  3. If I achieve something or get something out of some activity or experience, my own satisfaction must be sufficient.
  4. As a prime lesson, I learn to delay gratification; and learn to endure tension, frustration and privation.
  5. The gratification of interpersonal closeness need not be physical; it can be symbolic.
  6. If I want to reach a goal, I have to institute realistic action. A large part of the satisfaction in any achievement is commensurate with the invested effort. By the same token, some things are realistically unattainable, therefore, the wish has to be abandoned or modified.
  7. Tension, suffering, anxiety, depression, etc, are not quite as bad as I consider them to be. Phobic fears have to be endured and inevitably, I gain greater strength and self-confidence in the process. Avoidance may provide temporary relief but, essentially it is a pseudo solution which intensifies rather than solves the problem.
  8. Certain interpersonal maneuvers such as anger and hostile feelings, do not work. Ingratiation typically does not work as it seldom produces approval. Negativism does not coerce the other person to do my bidding. Attempts to “merge” with another person do not work. Retaliation is a wasteful effort.
  9. Cooperation generally brings the greatest interpersonal returns.

10.  Honesty about my feelings and motives is good policy. By recognizing motivations, I can take appropriate actions. I am responsible for my own actions, feelings and motives.

11.  Every person has rights and I need to learn to stand up for my own.

12.  I need to respect, accept and subordinate to higher authority. I have the choice to leave to search for a more congenial climate.

13.  Accepting authority, however, does not mean I abandon my freedom.

14.  It is crucial to accept full responsibility for my psychological processes and for my actions as part of man’s heritage and social worth. Blaming others for my predicament is self-defeating and ineffectual.

15.  Of utmost importance is the process of achieving a clearer understanding of my own identity and role functions, whose central importance in personality development has long been recognized.

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Published in: on September 6, 2009 at 5:43 pm  Comments (1)  

Hello world!

Well, I started out down a dirty road.
Started out all alone.
And, the sun went down as I crossed the hill.
The town lit up. The world got still.

I’m learning to fly, but I ain’t got wings
Comin’ down is the hardest thing

Well, the good old days may not return.
And the rocks might melt, and the sea may burn.

I’m learning to fly, but I aint got wings.
Comin’ down is the hardest thing.

Well, some say life will beat you down.
Break your heart, steal your crown.
So I started out, for God knows where.
But I guess I’ll know when I get there.

I’m learning to fly around the clouds.
But, what goes up must come down.

I’m learning to fly, but I ain’t got wings.
Comin’ down is the hardest thing.

I’m learning to fly around the clouds.
But, what goes up must come down.

I’m learning to fly.
I’m learning to fly.

Thanks to George Harrison

Published in: on October 17, 2008 at 11:22 am  Comments (1)